Time to move on
Knowing when to move on from a relationship can be hard, especially if you still have feelings for your partner or hope that things will get better. However, sometimes staying in a relationship that is not working can be more harmful than leaving it. Here are some signs that it's time to move on from your relationship:
- **You are unhappy more than you are happy**. Every relationship has its ups and downs, and no one can expect to be happy all the time. However, when you feel like the bad days are starting to take over, and you and your partner are drifting apart, it may be time to move on from your relationship. Every relationship will require some work to function correctly, but no relationship should feel like a job⁴.
- **You are being abused physically or emotionally**. This is a clear and non-negotiable sign that you need to leave your relationship as soon as possible. Someone who loves you will never hurt you intentionally, disrespect you, manipulate you, or make you feel unsafe. Abuse is never acceptable, and you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. If you are in an abusive relationship, please seek help from a trusted friend, family member, or a professional².
- **You are cheating or being cheated on**. Cheating is a major breach of trust and loyalty in a relationship, and it can cause a lot of pain and damage. If you or your partner have cheated, it may indicate that there is something missing or wrong in your relationship, and that you are not compatible or committed to each other. Cheating can also create a cycle of mistrust, resentment, and guilt that can be hard to break. Unless you and your partner are willing to work on rebuilding trust and honesty, it may be better to end the relationship².
- **You can't be yourself or grow as a person**. A healthy relationship should allow you to be yourself and support your personal growth. If you feel like you have to change yourself or hide your true feelings to please your partner, or if your partner tries to control you or limit your freedom, then you are not in a good relationship. You should be able to express your needs, opinions, and interests without fear of judgment or rejection. You should also be able to pursue your goals and passions without being held back by your partner.
- **You have lost interest or respect for your partner**. Sometimes relationships end not because of a dramatic event or a big fight, but because of a gradual loss of connection or attraction. You may find yourself feeling bored, indifferent, or resentful towards your partner, or noticing more flaws than strengths in them. You may also stop caring about their thoughts, feelings, or needs, or stop making efforts to communicate or spend time with them. If you have lost interest or respect for your partner, it may mean that you have fallen out of love with them .
These are some of the signs that it's time to move on from your relationship, but ultimately only you can decide what is best for you. Moving on can be scary and painful, but it can also open up new possibilities and opportunities for happiness. Whatever you choose to do, I hope you will find peace and fulfillment in your life😊